Try to imagine what your child will be like in 20 years. It may seem easy but, nevertheless, it is quite challenging for most of us.
There is a tendency to think that imagining what our child will be like is not important. “Who cares, life takes many turns and she’ll probably end up doing whatever she pleases”. However, it does matter. And a lot. Because that vision can shape just how happy, productive and creative he/she will be.
Leaders from large organizations, successful sportsman, people who achieve something extraordinary… they are always the ones that, from the start, had a clear vision of where they wanted to go. Behind every achievement there is a well-executed plan. Why not have one for educating our children? We have the enormous opportunity of deciding what type of memories they will have, what their first experiences will be and what knowledge to convey. We are the maximum influence for them and it is simply irresponsible not to stop and think how we want to make use of that influence.
But think twice. If we want to inspire our children and convey confidence and self-esteem, then not all visions of the future are effective.
Above all, it must be a vision that is supported by the family values the child grows up with. To ask ourselves what principles we want to convey, is the number one priority.
Also, the vision should be moulded according to each child’s interests and personality. It’s useless to dream about our son becoming a doctor “like his father” if his priority is drawing, or to imagine our daughter as a future president if she prefers to work on her own rather than in a group. Pushing your children to carry out activities that don’t suit them is a path towards rage and frustration, and can hide their true talents forever.
Watch them and ask. Ask and watch. The trick to helping them face a serene future is all in doing just that.